At the start of college, the mere mention of networking might make you want to dive under your bed and never come out. When most of us think of networking, the first thing that comes to mind is the socially awkward, dread-inducing chore of milling around a crowded room, to chat up strangers in corporate-speak.
As scary as it seems, networking can actually be fun and helpful. Here are some tips that can help you make easy small talk and network without stress.
1. Take Risks, Everyone Started from Somewhere
Let’s get one thing straight – no one popped straight into college with every single connection they would ever need– not even Nepo babies. We all started somewhere, usually trying to awkwardly work our way through a conversation.
Everyone you see confidently walking around campus with different levels of achievements, work experiences, or leadership roles under their belts, started from somewhere. So take a deep breath, and dive in. Approach that executive, and say hello. The worst that can happen is they think you’re weird and you’ll have a funny story to tell later. “Remember that time I told that Professor I liked his shoelace? Classic.”
2. Be Natural, Don’t Be Weird
Speaking of weird, trying too hard to impress can come off as, well, awkward. Remember, you’re not auditioning for a role in a sitcom. The trick is to just be yourself – unless “yourself” is a fire-breathing dragon, in which case, maybe tone it down a bit. Approach people with a smile, and a friendly hello, and remember that everyone is just as human as you are.
Talk about things you’re genuinely interested in. If you love knitting tiny sweaters for puppies, share it! Chances are, you’re talking to someone who loves dogs (and most people do). Or at least they’ll appreciate your authenticity.
3. Ask Questions – Make Research
This is a great tip if you’re worried about not knowing what to say. Flip the approach and instead make a list of things to ask. Show genuine curiosity by asking questions that go beyond the typical “What do you do?” Dig a little deeper. “What inspired you to choose this industry?” or “What are the ways you’re looking to make an impact in your field?”
People generally love talking about themselves, and showing that you’re interested in their story is a great way to make a connection. Plus, you might learn something new and interesting.
4. Show Vulnerability, Don’t Be Too Hard on Yourself
Newsflash: Nobody has it all figured out. Not even that Corporate Exec who seems to have everything. It’s perfectly okay to admit that you’re a bit nervous or unsure. Vulnerability is endearing and makes you relatable, and it’s okay to admit that you’re nervous. Everyone appreciates a bit of honesty.
If you stumble over your words or your voice shakes a little, it’s not the end of the world. In fact, it makes you relatable. We’re all human, after all. Embrace your quirks and imperfections – they’re what make you unique, and it just might be what convinces them you’re being authentic.
5. Show Genuine Interest, Be Funny, Don’t Sound Like AI
There’s a big difference between saying “Good evening, most esteemed guest. May I have the honor of being acquainted with you?” and “Hello, I was hoping I could ask you a few questions?” Be warm, be friendly, make small talk and yes, be funny if you can. Humor is a great icebreaker. Share a funny story or a light-hearted joke, and please don’t sound like ChatGPT. Being too formal or stiff can kill the vibe faster than a flat tire on a road trip. Sprinkle in some humor, be a bit spontaneous, and let your personality shine through. People can tell when you’re faking it, and trust me, no one wants to talk to a robot.
6. Maintain the Relationship, Don’t be Scared to Reach Out
Finally, another way to show genuine interest in the person you’re networking with is to keep in touch after the first meeting. A friend of mine once gave a tour to a gentleman who visited the college with his child. She made small talk, he found her very likable and after the tour, they connected on LinkedIn and kept in touch. As it turns out, he had put a job posting out for a marketing internship role and she reached out to him about it. Currently, she is filling that role and working under him during her co-op.
First impressions are important but that’s not enough. Remember to reach out– it doesn't have to be too often, and definitely not every day, just every now and then.
Written by: Rebecca Chukwu
BMRK Program
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